Losing a Part of My Childhood

Today morning I received the news of an uncle who passed away 20 days back. I was not informed about it with an assumption that I would get sad or have a migraine attack. Because that is what usually happens when I receive a news of this sort and parents as you know, are the most protective of you no matter how old you age. My office has also been crazy for over three weeks now and mom didn't want to add to it.

I have known Govind uncle since I was probably six or seven years old and have some of the most pleasant memories about him. I got to know that he had been battling cancer for a few years and lost the fight, owing to loss of his life.

I will always remember him as a happy man, no matter what. He was always smiling whenever I met him. Very warm in his appearance and a loving family figure, who lived a fulfilling life with children and grandchildren. Even after losing his caring and multi faceted life 15 years before his heavenly abode, he was always the same authentic self.

I am sorry that I did not know of his sickness. I am sorry that I never made an effort to get in touch with him in the last eight years 😞

Despite the gap in all these years, I feel a very happy part of my childhood is lost. This is how one grows up I suppose. Death brings us close to what is meaningful in life. It gives us a chance to feel the emotions that we have either forgotten or have not felt in a long time because of the kind of lives we are living today. 

Loss of a loved one or a cherished person, makes you realize momentarily, that the time we have with everyone around us is limited.. It is important to meet and share love when you are surrounded by your favorite people, who make you realize that the world is not a cold, harsh place. Live for the little things, meet without an occasion, because they will strengthen your belief that this is what life is about, this is what it means to be alive.

6-May 2020

"Govind uncle... You will always be a very loved part of my life and an indispensable memory. A big heart, welcoming smile, vibrant face, Mr Pop lollipops, Gajanand medical hall.

Thank you for a beautiful childhood that is now the most cherished phase of a confused and stressed adult"

Do Relationships Have An Expiry Date?

Yes, they absolutely do!

Relationships have always fascinated me. I have always valued all my relationships with every individual in my life because I truly believe that the moment you meet anyone you build a relationship. It is only momentarily that you decide the course of that relationship, in terms of time and direction.

So, my conclusion about relationships is that, just like everything materialistic in this world has an expiry date, relationships also have an expiry date and this date is different for all relations and solely depends on the nourishment of that relationship.

I have been extremely fortunate to experience some wonderful emotions, indescribable happiness and unbearable pain in my relationships. If you do not give a relationship the care, attention, respect and a lot of yourself, it is very difficult to build a lasting relationship. So, I can reassuringly tell you that

relationships are a lot of work and a road that is definitely two way!

Saying that a relationship which was built over years does not last may be an exaggeration so I will tone it down to saying that a relationship that does not receive its due nourishment, will stop growing and stagnate. As a result of this stagnation, it will eventually collapse.

I tried to understand what could be the pillars of a relationship that will not only build but also strengthen the same same as years pass by. And when I say relationship, I mean all relationships - professional, friends, acquaintances, romantic, spouse, parent - all of them!

1. Accept - Be accepting of everything about the other person - Strengths & Weaknesses
2. Communicate - Ask & Speak up about everything that you Feel & Expect
3. Honest - Nothing in this world can be precious than honesty between two individuals and this is the base of every brick that you lay as you move ahead
4. Passion - Give your 100% to the person you interact with leaving no room for judgement

If you have 10 minutes to spend on a video, please watch the one I am sharing below as I found it very apt and in tune with what I think of relationships.  While the speakers are talking about couples, I think these are valid for any relationship :)

Live, Laugh & Love!

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